Thank you for joining me again after the first part of this series. This time around, we will be talking about how to discover friendship and how to keep it.
Words like I just want to be your friends don’t count, what counts most times is interest. What do I mean? I mean having to discover that someone is passionate towards something you are also passionate about, it brings about expressions like: “So you love this too”,”you too“. Most times it is about people passionate about the same things, people absorbed side by side, people who are shoulder to shoulder with common interest. You cannot just have friends because you want to, you must have something to share (if you have nothing, you can share nothing), if you don’t have a destination, you cannot have fellow travelers
Now that we have discovered friendship, how do we keep it? I have some points here
– Consistency: A friend is always there, not some time but all kinds of time (even when the chips are down). There is really no friendship without availability. I have really not been a very good friend to my friends (I can say I am not up to the standards) but really I have friends who show me what it means to be friends time and time again. A dear friend will love you no matter what, and a family sticks together through all kinds of trouble (Proverbs 17:17, TPT)
Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family(Proverbs 18:24, MSG)
– Sensitivity: Have you seen someone dancing when others around are sad? That is the opposite of being sensitive. A good friend should understand his or her friend and should be able to feel what he or she feels. Let me explain this way, we must know when not to say things that may hurt them (I don’t mean not being honest). A friend should be sensitive emotionally not emotionally disconnected, I remember those days when some people who have been with me so many times just don’t seem to know that things are not well (they continue when you are down and are very happy even when you are sad). Imagine someone singing while you are sad. Singing light songs to the heavyhearted is like pouring salt in their wounds( Proverbs 25:20, MSG)
Have you gained anything so far? As a christian, what do you think are other factors to note in order to keep friendship? How do you forge your discovered friendship? Let us hear you in the comments box.
Join me in the last part of the series in the next writeup, thank you for reading all through
N.B: I have to say that Tim Keller’s teaching on friendship really inspired my writing on this, his teaching made me see friendship in a new light.